PEACEFUL "Zzzz"

Challenging Behaviors

Behavioral sleep problems are one of the most common problems in childhood.

  • How many times did you fall asleep while putting your baby to sleep?
  • How many times has your toddler’s necessities come up all together the moment he goes to bed (he wants to pee, drink, or even suddenly go hungry?)
  • How many times did your little young lady remember to tell you all what happened to her during the day, just when she puts her head on the pillow?

Children resist going to bed for a variety of reasons such as:

  • Because they wish to engage in other preferred activities.
  • Because they do not feel tired or sleepy.
  • Because they have nighttime fears that make them frightened of going to sleep alone.

Bedtime resistance:
Bedtime resistance can be shown in different ways. It is either when your child tries to delay
bedtime with requests or questions. Or when your child refuses going to bed or staying in bed
by  throwing tantrums, or visiting you several times at night. Your child  might also come up
with sudden complaints about headaches or stomach ache as a kind of bedtime avoidance.

Night waking:
Sometimes your little one might wake up crying or fussing because of feeling distress, while
other times he might wake up playing, gurgling, or cooing.
Frequent night waking is when your child wakes up several times at night for different reasons.

Sensory Tolerance

Soft Pillow

When you find yourself struggling to put your child to sleep, your child is waking up several times during the night, or his sleep is disrupted by the least sound, you need to find out the reasons for the sleeping struggles and one of which could be your child’s sensory tolerance or the ability to tolerate sensory stimulations.

When a child has intolerance to some kind of auditory stimulus, you will find that he wakes up easily even if someone just walks into the room or even opens the door. When a child has intolerance to some kind of thermic stimulus, a normal room temperature might feel like it’s too hot or too cold for your child which makes her fussy and interrupts her goodnight’s sleep. These and other sensory intolerances can cause difficulty in maintaining a good and continuous sleep.

Social & Emotional Challenges

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Children’s sleep issues which may be related to their social-emotional wellbeing is divided into three sections:

  • how children act and feel
  • how children and parents interact
  • fears and anxieties

How your child feels and acts can cause sleep problems; how they feel is their internal struggles, and how they act and react is their externalized struggles.

  • Internalized Struggles: you can pick up on these struggles by looking for signs of sadness, low self-esteem, behavioral inhibition, and fears which can cause your child’s stress levels to increase.
  • Externalized Struggles: If your child is showing signs of aggression, opposition, and/or defiance, these observable behaviors can be signs of external struggles.

How you interact with your child can affect sleeping routine:

  • Severe attachment and dependency between the parent and the child
  • Inconsistent rules at home maintaining limits and boundaries
  • Lack of patience exhibited by the parents toward the child throughout the day
  • Inconsistent nighttime routines

A big factor that can cause anxiety is FEAR!

Oftentimes, children are afraid to go to sleep for many different reasons, some of which may be irrational. For adults, it might sound ridiculous but for children, these fears are very real! They can vary from something as silly as monsters under the bed or fear of the dark to more core problems such as mommy and daddy might leave me. These scary thoughts can cause anxiety and leave your little ones with sleepless nights, because it is really difficult to free the mind and relax in preparation for a good night’s sleep. So if it’s late at night and after your child has been tucked in long before, you walk into his room to check on him and find that he’s still wide awake, try to make him feel safe by listening to what is going on in his mind and reassure him that you are there. If you are awoken by your child nudging at you wanting to sleep in your bed, it’s okay to welcome him into your arms and make him feel protected. Yet, if these are recurring episodes, then it’s important to look closer and learn the reasons behind these fears.

How Can ONESTI Help You

If you find that sleeping time is a challenge for you and your child, it is advisable that you learn more about your child’s sleeping problems, and find out whether the reasons are related to social and emotional issues, behavioral challenges, and/or sensory intolerances, fill ONESTI’s Peaceful Zzzz checklist and talk to our professionals. With ONESTI’s Peaceful “Zzzz’’ program you will learn steps and strategies to follow that will lead to a peaceful night’s sleep.